But after about 2 1/2 years, started to feel like a pet; stay in your pen until I want to do something, then be there on time. So it’s not only men who are set in their ways. I’m 48 now – fit, active, good looking (at least, that’s what I’m told) with a good career and interesting hobbies – and I can’t buy a date. Eight years of Match.com has netted me nothing; neither “serious” nor “fun” relationships are available to me. It’s as if all the women in the world have simply disappeared. Sure this sounds cynical, but at your age don’t you think it’s time to take off the optimism glasses and throw on the realism pants?
Remember, you’re exactly the right age to find true love.
The guy would have to be worth it for me to go back there again. So I guess I am not against getting married again. I can see that I am an attractive woman; I believe most men would agree. I am 5’4″ and wear a size 6, not that such things qualify me as an expert in being attractive. However, it should rule out the “Fat and ugly” comments that many women’s posts on such topics seem to bring. My husband did run off with another woman two decades ago; didn’t want to be a father anymore, he said.
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Even Florida gets cold these days, and there are no subway grates to sleep on. Let’s face it; Your best Days are behind You. You sound like a nice person with some insight. If you have baggage, accept others with similar baggage, you are matched. If baggage free, choose another baggage free, you are also matched. There is also article after article about how bad American are.
As men age, they may lose hair, grow pot bellies, and get wrinkles. For a woman who is particular about a partner’s appearance, these signs of aging might make a person unappealing to her. On the other hand, a younger man will have a relatively fresh appearance without the usual signs of aging. Also, vitality could be a strong attraction.
Some argue that this is yet another stereotyped cliche that doesn’t have much proof behind it. While it’s true that some men may consider younger women easy targets for manipulation or control, there are less sinister reasons an older man may be drawn to someone younger. One pleasant surprise about dating after 50 is less groveling for sex. After a few dates, most older women feel fine about going horizontal, and don’t care if your erections are iffy or gone.
Being low maintenance isn’t such a great thing anyway. Having expectations means you value yourself enough not to settle for less. If someone bolts once you’ve articulated your wants, you’ve saved both of you a lot of time. As being girls who don’t need anything when we are adult women with real needs. Going back to our carefree youth when we’re middle-aged isn’t that great.
LLF, you will probably have a narrow dating pool to choose from, attend as many yoga retreats, meditation classes and health activities to find a mate. I AM FULLY RETIRED now so may sell my home and travel since dating has been a real waste of time and a whole lot of money for me for the last 10 years. I just have to change from the hopeless romantic type.
His friends are getting worried, and so are his family members. He’s hitting up Match.com trying to find “The One” who will be a good baby mama. Much like the Aging Player, these men may need mental wellness help or to do some soul searching. They know not all women are like that, but they’ve reached the point where the resentment and rejection got so bad that they no longer could have a healthy relationship, even if they wanted to. While the most common word for a single man is a bachelor, he could also be called a player if he chooses to stay single and date many women at once, without choosing a commitment to one of them.
Guys need to equally care for themselves physically. I am caught in a cycle of sitting home often because I don’t want to compromise and spend time with people I am not attracted to just so I am not alone. I am 50 and recently single after 17 years with someone. No kids, very few assets (I gave him what assets we had so he could figure things out on his own but he’s blown through them and still can’t figure things out).
I am sympathetic but as this can be an emotional rollercoaster etc. for women – but it means the men are along for the ride too. I think this is why men my age look southward in the dating age. Plus the biology of attraction is based on reproduction/fertility – female beauty is tied up in youth – the reproductive years.
The things that you are going to date older people don’t protect you from running into some weirdos. Let’s start with something promising oasisdating.net membership rates and more pleasant. It is obvious that you get some advantages when you are dating middle aged, otherwise, people wouldn’t do that at all.
You’re thinking we should get together. She’s a great gal and I love her to death but our relationship goes back 37 years to high school and is likely to stay platonic. I wouldn’t mind dating her but I don’t think she feels the same way towards me and just wants to stay buds. Reading this whole thing and other pages/sites like it, just confirms me committing suicide.
You may have a better chance of meeting that right person through mutual interests than by randomly dating. I don’t think I would even want to entertain that thought in the beginning of any relationship now, because it is after all, the beginning of a friendship and that will have to take time. I think many people today no matter what age they are, still are looking for the same thing, someone to make their life more enjoyable when they come home after work.
While some are gonna read the bitterness here, in between the lines you see the real point. Sometimes you get bombarded by attitude and fantasyland talk and it gets to the point that single men have to detonate the message like a nuke to get everyone to listen, understand, and accept. All but the menopause are often valued by men who love the mother of their children. Unfortunately, that’s not who you are dating. Men do in fact go through the equivalent of menopause. Have you ever heard a commercial for Androgel or Low-T?
